Curated guides, journals, investing primers, and AI copilots crafted for high-conflict, high-stakes divorce journeys. Every recommendation is battle-tested by survivors and legal strategists so you can move from chaos to control.
STOP feeling lost. START taking control of your divorce. This comprehensive field manual walks you through every step—from deciding to file to signing the decree—so you do not spend $50,000 learning the basics. Legal jargon, financial forensics, and emotional turbulence are translated into plain language, actionable checklists, and decision trees.
Written by an expert who endured the process, it doubles as a personal coach, legal dictionary, and financial planner. Use it to safeguard assets, advocate for your children, and maintain emotional clarity.
What you’ll master inside
The 7 stages of divorce. A plain-language roadmap with decoded court terms, filings, and realistic pacing so you can prepare before each milestone hits.
Financial fortress. Separate vs. marital property explained, tactics for tracking hidden assets, and guided worksheets for airtight financial discovery.
High-conflict survival. Strategies for narcissistic abuse, coercive control, and financial manipulation—complete with evidence logs and safety planning prompts.
Child custody clarity. Understand the Best Interest Standard, calculate child support, and customize the 13-section parenting plan template.
Ready-to-use templates. 20+ printables including the Complete Asset & Debt Inventory, Monthly Budget Worksheet, and Pre-Filing Document Checklist.
State-specific guidance. Quick references on residency rules, waiting periods, and the differences between Community Property vs. Equitable Distribution states.
A clean, court-ready aesthetic you can mirror when presenting exhibits or binders to your legal team.
50K
Average dollars saved when you prep before hiring counsel.
20+
Worksheets, logs, and checklists included.
This is more than a book; it is your personal divorce coach guiding you from panic to preparation.
Digital evidence vault
Thrive Incident Logger
Log incidents clearly, securely, and on your terms. Create timestamped records with categories, attachments, audit history, and exports.
Incident Logger is a simple, privacy-focused app for documenting incidents quickly and reliably. Capture the facts the moment they happen, keep them organized by case or topic, and maintain a defensible chain of custody for every note, upload, or screenshot.
Whether you are tracking safety concerns, service issues, equipment problems, or sensitive personal events, Incident Logger helps you create clear, timestamped records you can trust—and share only when you are ready.
Structured evidence. Tag entries by category, add supporting files, and auto-attach location + device metadata for context.
Audit-ready timeline. Every edit preserves the original snapshot so you can demonstrate credibility if the record is challenged.
Private until shared. Keep logs encrypted inside Thrive until you export a PDF, CSV, or attorney packet.
Timestamp every interaction, attach proof, and export polished reports when you are ready to escalate.
Digital download shop
Clarity: Documents & Templates
Built for survivors who need immediate structure, the Etsy shop Clarity: Documents & Templates delivers printable and fillable systems—Excel workbooks, checklists, templates, and trackers—that keep every phase of divorce organized.
This flagship toolkit moves you from safety planning to decree with calm, prioritized action items so you can brief counsel efficiently or self-represent with confidence.
6 structured planning tools. Cover your legal, financial, emotional, and safety domains without juggling loose PDFs.
Printable + fillable formats. Type directly into workbooks or print sections for binders, mediation, and court exhibits.
Attorney-ready organization. Aligns with discovery, parenting plans, and incident documentation so your legal team can action quickly.
Core bundle includes
Divorce Flowchart
Stage-by-Stage Checklist
Monthly Action Plan
Document Gathering Worksheet
Safety Planning Worksheet
DV Incident Documentation Log
Ideal for self-represented parties or partners aligning with their attorneys.
Instant downloads with lifetime access to updates.
Divorce command center
Organization Planner
Stay grounded with prompts that translate emotional moments into next steps. Keep court dates, task queues, and safety contingencies in one workbook designed for clarity and control.
Legal, financial, emotional, and safety dashboards
Support your kids and document every exchange with structured logs, parenting guidelines, and age-specific coping tools that calm tense communications.
5 printable tools covering custody, communication, and support
Kids’ coping activities for multiple age ranges
Fillable PDFs to keep exchanges factual and court-ready
Includes: Parenting Plan Organizer & Custody Rules, Communication Log, Kids’ Activity Guide, Emotional Support Tools.
Settlement modeling
Financial Planning Toolkit
Model settlements with Excel calculators, organize every asset, and prep mediation conversations with child-support guidance rooted in state frameworks.
Excel asset division calculator with live formulas
Printable budget + settlement planning worksheets
Child support guidance mapped to state resources
Includes: Monthly Budget Worksheet, Child Support Calculator Guide, Excel Asset Division Calculator, Asset & Debt Inventory with Settlement Planning Worksheets, Resource index for legal aid, assistance, and divorce support groups.
Evidence companion
The Divorce Incident Journal
Divorce is disorienting—and memory fades fastest when adrenaline spikes. This guided journal transforms chaotic recollections into organized incident logs that withstand trial scrutiny.
Document every interaction. Record who was present, what was said, financial transactions, and emotional tone so your attorney can map patterns.
Build a narrative. Translate raw pain into a timeline judges understand—critical for coercive control, hidden financing, or parenting disputes.
Protect your future self. When details blur, the journal preserves exact wording, locations, and corroborating witnesses.
Think about who finances your ex, who escalates conflict, and who witnesses abusive behavior. Capturing these details today prevents courts from dismissing them tomorrow.
200+
Incident entries with prompts
5
Reflection sections surfacing leverage
Evidence discipline
Daily logging ritual
Close every day by answering the same five prompts: what happened, who witnessed it, what financial impact occurred, which documents prove it, and what follow-up you owe your attorney.
Consistency beats perfection—short, factual entries filed nightly carry more weight than sporadic essays.
AI prompt toolkit
Structured prompts for divorce strategy
Keep sensitive data anonymous, cite your jurisdiction, and tell AI exactly how to help. Every prompt below spells out the role, task, focus, and format so you receive actionable drafts—you still confirm accuracy with legal counsel.
Prompt 01
State timeline explainer
Role of AI: Act as a family-law legal educator for {STATE}.
Task: Outline the divorce timeline from petition to decree.
Focus: Highlight waiting periods, mediation requirements, and mandatory disclosures.
Format: Numbered roadmap with typical durations and cautions for counsel review.
Prompt 02
Incident log audit
Role of AI: Act as an evidence librarian.
Task: Review my anonymized incident entry and flag missing data.
Focus: Dates, witnesses, financial impacts, safety concerns, and attorney follow-ups.
Format: Table with “Detail Needed” and “Why it matters in court”.
Prompt 03
Discovery checklist
Role of AI: Act as a forensic accounting checklist builder.
Task: Draft a discovery list to surface hidden assets.
Focus: Bank statements, business ledgers, cash apps, crypto wallets, and transfer receipts.
Format: Bulleted list grouped by institution with sample subpoena language.
Prompt 04
Parenting exchange briefing
Role of AI: Act as a trauma-informed communication coach.
Task: Draft a neutral message for a tense parenting-time exchange.
Focus: Reference the order, request confirmations, and keep tone factual.
Format: Three-paragraph email plus subject line options.
Prompt 05
Budget rebuild
Role of AI: Act as a compassionate financial planner.
Task: Build a post-divorce budget using anonymized income and support estimates.
Focus: Separate fixed vs. flexible costs, highlight legal-fee reserves, and savings goals.
Format: Table plus three next steps to stabilize cash flow.
Prompt 06
Negotiation rehearsal
Role of AI: Act as a mediator scripting coach.
Task: Role-play settlement talks over {key concern}.
Focus: Provide suggested talking points, likely counterarguments, and questions for counsel.
Format: Dialogue table with “You” vs. “Other party” plus risk notes.
Reminder: redact names, account numbers, and docket IDs before pasting text into any AI chat—treat drafts as starting points only.
Financial resilience
Investing for the Rest of Us: From Piggy Bank to Portfolio
Does the world of investing feel like a secret club you weren’t invited to? This beginner-friendly guide turns financial fear into confidence using stories, analogies, and hands-on exercises engineered for people rebuilding after divorce.
Fight inflation. Understand why mattress money loses value and how to outpace rising costs with simple instruments.
Compound confidence. See exactly how consistency plus compound interest grows wealth exponentially.
Portfolio training wheels. Build balanced starter portfolios with index funds, goal-based budgets, and quizzes that keep you accountable.
Whether you’re saving for housing, custody transitions, or a post-divorce reset, this book is your roadmap to financial freedom—no jargon, no intimidation.
ChatGPT, Claude, and Gemini can brainstorm discovery requests, translate legal terms, outline negotiation talking points, or simplify financial disclosures. Always anonymize sensitive data, verify outputs with statutes, and let your attorney make the final call.
GPT
ChatGPT
Great for summarizing financial affidavits, drafting polite but firm emails, and brainstorming disclosure questions. Use custom instructions to remind it you want trauma-informed, jurisdiction-aware language.
Safeguard: Remove names, account numbers, and court case identifiers before sharing.
Excellent for long-form reasoning. Upload statement extracts or parenting plan drafts to receive empathetic rewrites, insight summaries, or negotiation scripts.
Safeguard: Claude will refuse overt legalese—frame prompts as education, not representation, and cite your attorney’s guidance for accuracy.
Ideal for research cross-checks. Ask Gemini to surface state residency requirements, waiting periods, or explain the difference between community property and equitable distribution.
Safeguard: Fact-check statutes against your state’s judiciary site before acting.
These tools do not replace licensed counsel. Treat every AI suggestion as a draft until your legal or financial advisor signs off.
Next step
Pair these resources with Thrive Financial
Upload statements, log incidents, and auto-build settlement-ready reports inside the Thrive Financial workspace. When you combine disciplined documentation with forensic automations, you reclaim leverage.
